I was first introduced to The Total Transformation by my neighbor. She is the mother of an eight year old autistic child and she told me that it was doing wonders in helping her to parent him. She said that she thought it might help with our five strong-willed kiddos and that I should check it out. I finally agreed, and I’m really glad I did.
What I discovered was a program by a guy named James Lehman, who has a masters in social work, and has worked with troubled teens and children for many years. The thing that struck me right away was that Mr. Lehman was very honest and to-the-point – he tells it like it is – and I like that. His observations are simple, and the tools that he gives you to work with the kids are doable. His main idea, as far as I could see at first glance, was this:
Children need to learn to problem-solve
Mr. Lehman’s assertion is that kids don’t know how to problem-solve, and that’s why they act out in inappropriate ways. It’s a coping mechanism they’ve developed to force someone else to solve the problem at hand for them. What he does with The Total Transformation Program is to give us as parents the tools we need to train our kids to solve their problems.
It’s as simple as that – most parents are pretty good parents, and they really want to help their kids, but they just don’t know how. What James Lehman does is teach us how, and what I’d like to do in this Total Transformation portion of this blog is to share some of the things I’ve learned from the program.
About the author: By Matt HellstromMatt is the parent (along with his wife Julie) to five wonderful kids. He has been self-employed for 25+ years and is the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.
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What age children can this program be used for? We are have 3 and 4 year olds and want to start them with positive parenting.
I don’t think this is a bad program for any kids, but it is more geared to kids that are defiant and challenging. However, there are many great tips and techniques to be learned to help any parent be a better parent.