When I first found out about The Total Transformation by James Lehman I was pretty leery. I’d read what seems like hundreds of books about child raising and while I was getting results from some I wasn’t really satisfied. However, when I started listening to the CD’s, watching the DVD’s and going through the workbook, I had to say to myself “This is different!”

I couldn’t believe how easy it was to start implementing the tools Mr. Lehman gives you in The Total Transformation. In fact, there’s one CD called “The One Minute Transformation” that shows you how to turn your childs attitude around in one minute or less. Guess what? It works!

There is one section called “Concepts of Behavior Management” that goes over different situations that occur within a family, and how to handle them (or not handle them sometimes). I think this is the meat and potatoes of the course. It contains 27 different key concepts relating to Behavior Management. Number one and the most important: Accept no excuse for abuse. This is non-negotiable. This includes verbal, physical, or psychological abuse. While self-defense is not abuse, self-defense that abuses other people is abuse.

Here are 3 others that struck a chord with me. Remember, this is just a sample of what’s included.

• The 10 Words to say to a mouthy child. This technique really works. It stops the back talk and cursing no matter how nasty they are. If your home is a living war zone, this one tip can start changing it into a place of peace and sanity.
• Accountability. The word-by-word scripts are easy to follow and remember. This skill will get your child to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you (yeah!) and others.
• Stop the Show. This is a great way to stop fighting and acting out in public. Does your child become more defiant when he is around his friends? This is a must-have tool! For our family, this one technique probably showed the most marked change of all.

What I discovered is that this program showed me how to stop ANY argument with my kids instantly. No matter their age or size I no longer had to be sucked into their need to have me solve their problems.  From the first day, I learned a whole new way to get my children to cooperate with yelling, threatening or cajoling. The powerlessness and power struggles was replaced with a child who listened and responded appropriately.

Straight forward analysis and answers.

The best thing about this program in my opinion is Mr. Lehman’s straight forward way of talking and explaining everything. When he tells you why something is the way it is, you’ll find yourself saying “That makes total sense!” I could really see that he understands the dynamic of parent/child relationships. It was almost like he was living in our house! And when he tells you what to do, you just know right away that it’s going to work.

This is just a taste of what I’ve learned in The Total Transformation. You can click here for an interactive multi-media presentation that lets you listen to a sample of each CD and watch a little of the DVD’s too. It’s pretty cool! If you’re having trouble maintaining control of your house like I did, I really hope you’ll take a look at The Total Transformation right now. Plus, they offer a 30 day free trial, so you’ve really got nothing to lose.