gary chapman

Five Love Languages For Kids

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The other day as I was driving some gizzillionth place, I had the privilege to listen to Gary Chapman speaking on his book Love Languages for Kids. He said the coolest thing – “you can tell your child’s love language by his most frequents requests.” Really?!

If he asks, “Can I help you mom?” his love language is service.

If he asks, “Did I do a good job mom?” his love language is words of affirmation.

If he asks, “Do you like the picture I colored for you mom?” his love language is gifts.

If he asks, “Can I snuggle with you mom?” his love language is touch.

If he asks, “Can I go with you mom?” his love language is time.

Easy, speasy! And I’ve learned that while most of us have a primary language, we like to speak other dialects on occasion. If you’re interested in learning more about your kid’s love language, click here.

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