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6:57 am
May 5, 2011
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We've got four right now, and for a period of about 3 months in a year we're going to have five! Pretty hard. My biggest problem is letting them grow up. Since they're all adopted, they've kind of had special needs such as being RAD and we've had to keep pretty firm control over the situation. Now, they want some freedom and it's hard for us to let go (me anyway).
12:30 pm
May 19, 2011
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I have one turning 13 in a few months and She is determined that she needs freedom she needs space she needs she needs How ever she does not seem to want to show any responsibility what so ever and is contantly comparing herself to our 8 year old who has a very severe case of ADHD I am tired of her saying "Well Tyler did it" "Well Tyler doesn't have to" "Well Tyler started it" So I told her If she wants to compare to an 8 year old she can have the same restrictions as an 8 year old and haven't been allowing her off with friends or on Facebook … Is this the right aproach or is there something else I should be trying?
7:15 pm
May 6, 2011
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Are you seeing a difference in her attitude? If not, can you talk to her about what your expectations are in order for her to see some of that desired freedom. We tell our kids this – if we ask them to do something and they say "I didn't do it" or "so and so did it", we say "I didn't say you did or I didn't ask who did it, I just want you to (whatever you asked)". Also, when the comparison card is played, we play the parent card – each of our kids are different and we parent accordingly. Stops the power struggle. Lastly, let the rope out slowly. Don't give more until you feel good with her being able to handle what you have given her. And praise her positive progress.
9:39 pm
May 5, 2011
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One of the things we say to our kids is "You'll let us know when you're ready to get back on Facebook again". Don't tell them what they need to do, let them use their own brain not yours. Then, when they're being respectful, responsible, and fun to be around for a while you let them have another chance at Facebook.
2:01 am
February 9, 2012
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Hello everybody I have a 14 years old daughter now. She didn't ask anything from from us and nothing change a lot to her. She still the sweet and responsible daughter that we know. I agree with Matt let them use their own brain were just here to support and guide them in everything they do.
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