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12:17 am
May 17, 2011
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So my 12 yr old has taken up smoking! We have grounded,lectured, explained the health effects and reminded him of his Papa who passed away with lung cancer from smoking! None of this has worked! My neighbor has caught him twice since Sunday and just sent me a message that said she is concerned of him starting a fire! I am at my wits end with this! I know as a smoker myself that it does not lead the best example and I am working on quitting but what other things can I do?
Any ideas are welcomed!
Thanks LeAnne
10:14 am
May 17, 2011
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Wow… it's amazing the choices these kids make these days. I will be praying for you!! It hurts so much to watch our kids make choices that hurt them. If it is possible, can you have him with you 100% of the time? If he can't make good choices when he is away from you, maybe this is his way of saying he needs to be with "someone" 24/7.
10:30 pm
May 26, 2011
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Wow LeAnne I think you have my sons idential twin although I did not know he had a twin!!!!
Alec started doing most of that same stuff at about 12, he just turned 14. He was sneaking out nightly, burglarized a store, tried smoking, played with fire, is infatuated with blood, gore, gangs and all they stand for. Has assaulted both Kevin and I on several occasions, destroyed countless property etc.
I was searching hard for anyplace to send him I was DONE.
We were on our last nerve when we discovered the Nancy Thomas camp, we attended in Oregon last October, it was amazing.
Things were different but Kevin and I were so exhausted we could not keep up with the techniques we needed to implement.
At first the good was really good but the bad got really bad, we decided we were not doing anymore knock down drag outs, so we made the decision to send Alec to respite. He spent two months in Colorado [we live in Washington state], then the three of us did a one week intensive at Nancy Thomas's ranch in Colorado in January.
That has proven to be the best decision/investment we have made in a long time. The healing that Alec did during respite and the intensive was amazing. Don't get me wrong he has a long way to go but we can actually see there is hope for us.
In fact Alec is going back to Colorado next week for one month for a "tune up".
If you have never done respite for your kido or yourself I would highly recommend it, even if it is short term.
I think one of the things that motivates Alec now is hwe knows we have options if he does not want to be part of the family.
Good Luck with your son.
7:01 pm
May 17, 2011
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Sherri, so proud of you for being an AWESOME MOM!! Nancy's dvd set, when love is not enough, is also a great way to stay "in touch" with the goal and positive parenting.
6:01 pm
May 5, 2011
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Hey Sherri, now I know who you are. Glad you chose to participate and share with other parents in the same boat.
7:54 am
May 6, 2011
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Hey LeAnne – Hope you are well. I am too looking for a smoking solution for my teen. I am of the mindset that I can't stop her outside of the home, but hate that she sneaks and does it in her room or bathroom. I am so afraid that she will start a fire in our house, especially on those wonderful nights that she comes home high or drunk. When I showed her the hard evidence found and said this must stop. She said snottily "Ok" and then proceeded to later sneak in the bathroom and smoke! Ugh!! I know not to tell a RAD stop, but for Pete's sake it is a safety issue. What to do?
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