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7:43 pm
May 5, 2011
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When we started the foster program in order to adopt kids, we had know idea what we were getting in for. They don't tell you much up front, at least in Washington state. Now that our kids are getting to be teenagers, we're learning about things like reactive attachment disorder and it's not easy. Don't get me wrong – I wouldn't give any of the up for all the tea in China, but every day is a challenge. I'm glad we found Nancy Thomas, she's wonderful when it comes to training up RAD parents.
3:58 pm
May 17, 2011
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Nancy's work is amazing. Wouldn't it be wonderful if taking a camp/class by her was mandatory before you could adopt? I am usually involved with the process after it has reached it's peek… too late! Mom is exhausted… Dad doesn't understand why… the kids are fine for him. Kids have so much trauma and dysfunctional coping skills that it is almost necessary to get respite for the family. I would love to see more adoption programs teach therapeutic parenting techniques, this way, the parents are prepared, and the kids will be successful. Nancy's work is incredible!
9:03 pm
May 5, 2011
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Very true, Jeri. When you go through the foster adopt training, at least back when we did here in Washington, they didn't tell you at all what to expect, and they didn't do any kind of training like that – that's for sure! You're right, that would be great if it was mandatory to go to one of Nancy's camps.
9:25 am
May 17, 2011
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Even if they didn't make it mandatory, at least giving out the information and the resources to get help would be wonderful. This past weekend, I was speaking at a camp at a camp that had a couple of families that were in the process of adopting, one from the state of WA I believe. The case worker was able to give the family financial support and they were able to attend. I think we are starting to see a shift in the system, so many kids are exhibiting behaviors that are not fitting in the criteria for standard treatment, we know it as RAD. Adoptions are failing and families are being torn apart. I love that you have opened up this forum to reach out and let people know that while this community may be small, it has a BIG heart.
11:45 pm
August 3, 2011
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Yes because in adoption all responsibilities comes as a instant and stay there for forever.. most of the parents don't even think about those responsibilities that make this more difficult. although its good to have a adopted child.. Thanks
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