You know the age old lament – “kids don’t come with instruction manuals!” (I have even caught myself saying it!)? Well I decided to give you some parent resources guidance. It is a bit like a manual in that I put several resources in this one article to have at your fingertips. This website also is packed with excellent parent resources guidance. Bookmark this site and use the categories list on the top as your personal index. Comment below with any recommendations for other topics.
We have seen an increase in need for this parenting help as family structures are deteriorating with divorce and single parenting at an all time high. Stress in raising kids follows that trend. In fact, one community decided to help parents supporting their children in the area of school. This great article lays out their main objective.
Parent Resources Guidance
Now in its second year, Parent University offers more than 200 free classes to parents to help them become more in tune with their children’s school work, test scores, assessments and general classes to boost their involvement in the community.
“We get parents into the classroom with a variety of classes like healthy nutrition choices, computer classes, English classes, how to help your children with homework and data assessment for children,” coordinator Maria Fernandez said.
The program has added 40 new classes this year after following up on parents’ assessment of the different courses that were available last year. Fernandez said the new classes will bring a better focus to the academic side of the program and help parents help their students succeed.
“Our main goal is to raise student achievement and close the achievement gaps that we have within our minority groups. We believe that by offering the tools to the parents, that will happen and we will help create a home atmosphere that is learning all the time,” she said.
Read more: Sparks Tribune – Parental guidance
There is so much good information in this article, you could even use it to present to your local college/community center to give them a jumpstart in providing parent resources guidance.
This last weekend, I had a wake up call. My #4 son went to stay at a friend’s house for the night. Now he is 14 and even though he hates it, I do take him and meet the parents (or parent and boyfriend in this case) to be sure it is a safe place for him to be (btw – I have done this for all my kids up to the age where I feel they can say No or at least come home if things get weird or wild). Things seemed okay and after talking to mom felt she was concerned and aware. I left him. Fast forward to next morning. Upon arriving home, my son informed me that he was up late (no duh it was a sleepover) and that the girls fell asleep first. GIRLS???? Apparently after hanging out at the mall, Mom thought it would be okay to have a mixed sleepover. No parental supervision, no asking other parents if they were ok with that – nothing!
It struck me then. Gone are the days that the majority of the parents are on basically the same page. And I can’t even say it is due to different parenting styles. I believe it has to be the lack of sound parenting skills. Now coming from a foster/adopt mom, you know that I have seen generational (and am raising some of their kids) breakdowns in parenting.
This is not to be confused with different parenting styles of our parents. There is a cute and funny movie due out at Christmas regarding just that subject. Here is the movie trailer.
Looks good huh? Might want to check it first before taking the kids. Too much ammo to give them and all !
Anyway, our goal here and Dr. Hackney’s below is to stop this runaway train and give parent resources guidance whenever and where ever possible.
One of the featured speakers at this weekend’s 17th Annual National At-Home Dad Convention was Dr. Rene Hackney. She currently owns and teaches at Parenting Playgroups, Inc. in Alexandria, VA. She lectures to thousands of parents, teachers, and social workers each year on a wide range of parenting related topics. She holds a PhD. in developmental psychology and a M.A. in school psychology, both from George Mason University.Her session at the convention was titled Managing Power Struggles and Helping Your Kids to Listen Better. I think most of the dads who attended would agree that it was a powerful, and informative session that offered practical application that would immediately make a difference in our homes. While I can’t recap the entire session, I can give you ten of the resources that she mentioned so that you can do specific reading to target any issues that you are having with your individual child.(here are the parent resources)2. Partnership Parenting: How Men and Women Parent Differently–Why It Helps Your Kids and Can Strengthen Your Marriage - Men and women not only have naturally different communication styles, but unique approaches to parenting as well. While mothers tend to overprotect their kids, fathers tend to push them toward independence. And whereas many experts tend to advocate “a united front,” Drs. Kyle and Marsha Pruett reveal how Mom and Dad not always being on exactly the same page— which, initially, may seem to cause conflict— can actually strengthen the whole family. Informed by the Pruetts’ research and extensive experience with parents and children, Partnership Parenting offers a new outlook. In addition to fascinating biological insights, the book features strategies for negotiating common “landmine situations” from birth to age eight, from discipline and bedtime to helping kids with homework and teaching them responsibility. With wisdom and humor, Partnership Parenting helps couples take advantage of their individual strengths to raise confident children while simultaneously improving their marriage.
3. Playful Parenting - From eliciting a giggle during baby’s first game of peekaboo to cracking jokes with a teenager while hanging out at the mall, Playful Parenting is a complete guide to using play to raise confident children. Written with love and humor, brimming with good advice and revealing anecdotes, and grounded in the latest research, this book will make you laugh even as it makes you wise in the ways of being an effective, enthusiastic parent.4. Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age - More and more children are growing up without a clear sense of financial or emotional limits. The Washington Post recently reported findings from U.S. Bancorp that even lower-income families are buying and spending more than ever on their children. But whether the cause is over-indulgence due to a new affluence or over-compensation for a lack of time spent with them, especially when both parents are working, many parents have created a world where their children’s every need and desire is instantly fulfilled. But, as Dr. Kindlon points out, the one thing money cant buy for children is character. Dr. Kindlon guides parents toward helping their childrenand themselves understand the consequences of giving too much and expecting too little. Read the full article and all the tips right here.