The other day as I was driving some gizzillionth place, I had the privilege to listen to Gary Chapman speaking on his book Love Languages for Kids. He said the coolest thing – “you can tell your child’s love language by his most frequents requests.” Really?!
If he asks, “Can I help you mom?” his love language is service.
If he asks, “Did I do a good job mom?” his love language is words of affirmation.
If he asks, “Do you like the picture I colored for you mom?” his love language is gifts.
If he asks, “Can I snuggle with you mom?” his love language is touch.
If he asks, “Can I go with you mom?” his love language is time.
Easy, speasy! And I’ve learned that while most of us have a primary language, we like to speak other dialects on occasion. If you’re interested in learning more about your kid’s love language, click here.
About the author: By Matt HellstromMatt is the parent (along with his wife Julie) to five wonderful kids. He has been self-employed for 25+ years and is the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.
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Great post! This is especially important to know for children with differeing abilities as this may significnatly influence their behaviour.
Teachers also need to know as it will help them tap into the child’s potential at school.
I like Chapman’s Love Languages book – it makes so much sense. Two years ago, I had the privilege of meeting him at an industry event (I’m a writer, too) and he signed a copy of his then new Languages of an Apology book.
Anyhow, this information can help parent adapt to their child’s need and definition of “love” to feeling more loved.
Thanks for sharing this short post.