Comments on: Does The Total Transformation Really Work?

By: Adrienne smith

Adrienne smith — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 02:08:18 +0000

@Andy smith: I thought I was alone. I have a 6 yr old son that has oppositional defiant disorder. Reading these posts made me not feel so crazy, because for along time I thought I was a bad mom and that it was something I did. I am a stay at home mom , my husband and I feel like we have done everything as parents we could do in raising him to be an obedient child. But we just don't know where we have gone wrong. He mostly targets me because I am with him most of the time, my husband works out of town a lot . So I get the brunt of the tantrums. It just breaks my heart to hear him say such ugly things to me. I hope that the total transformation can help because I am at the end of my rope.

By: Andy smith

Andy smith — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 18:32:11 +0000

We have a 10 year old son who I feel that needs An exorsism instead a beh. Program.it started with an 8 hr temper trantrum when he was about 2 or 3.he acts wonderful at school, with other families(which god knows we are thankful for that)but when it comes to me my husband and my 14 yr old dtr. He is mostly a little monster. We have never been able to tell him “no” without him flipping chairs, punching holes in the walls, locking himself in the bathroom for hrs to prevent getting a whipping. He takes our things. We don’t have anything that is personal or private, I will find our stuff took apart in his room. The only time he is normal acting is when he is sick. I’ve tried to talk to his dr. But he blows us off saying he needs his butt busted! I’ve took him to counslers but it would of involved school and I don’t want him classified as a troubled kid there because he does so well there. He talks so bad to us especially to hid dad “I hate your guts, I’d like to shoot u in the head when I get 18, I know you all hate me, and so on and so fourth.” we are tired, sick, and disguisted. We seldom have my dtrs friends over because he won’t leave them alone. We don’t have his friends over because he will do and say anything he wants to us without regard, and he is as wild as a buck, but remember he is not that way anywhere but with us it must be us. We are not bad people. We are educated and professional people. My husband recently retired due to a final bout of crohns dz. This behavior with our son is thelast thing my husband needs. I’m gonna try this program because I am truly desparate!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 17:40:04 +0000

@stacy: Facing the same thing but with a disrespectful bio mom. Kids can't -choose- where they live (if you are divorced), that's set up by the divorce decree. I hope yours doesn't get legal/costly/ugly, but where to live is not up to the minor child. Your girl's father sounds like he may be disrespecting his daughter and her best interests, given those include maintaining a healthy relationship with her mom by allowing (and promoting) your separate household.

By: Robin Pike

Robin Pike — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 06:02:39 +0000

Reading all of these posts is so refreshing… I always felt my daughter was the only one who acted like this and that I have done something wrong in raising her to be the way she is today.

My 16 year old daughter is a professional manipulator! Her behavior is hot and cold and I never know what exactly is going to set her off. She has been dating a guy (20 years old but acts as if he is 14) that depends 100% on his mother. She has been basically living with him when she doesn’t need anything from us (usually food and change of clothing). She smokes cigarettes (which her boyfriends mother buys) and is a very disrespectful human being. She has dropped out of school and does not work. I am at the end of my rope and feel like I have zero control.

This program talks about implementing consequences when the rules are not followed but my question is, what kind of consequences can I implement if I can’t even keep her at home? I will gladly buy this program if it really does work for someone like her.

By: Mr. Slate

Mr. Slate — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 03:37:20 +0000

I am a father of a 13 year old daughter that treats me like I am a friend of hers that can’t tell her what to do. She will do things without asking, borrow things without asking and when I get “What are you doing?” about it she says she doesn’t have to ask anyone. Such as using my PC instead of hers, or taking my expensive video camera instead of using the one we let her use. If she does ask me for somthing and I say no, she goes to my wife and asks her, like my say doesn’t count. She rarely listens to me and I feel like I am just someone she uses to get something she wants, and I am useless to her if I don’t. This is getting old. I love her, but she makes it really hard to do so, I’m telling you. She questions her teachers at school the same way, but treats other parents with huge respect when she goes to a friend’s house. “Your daughter is sooo respectful” I always say good to hear, but I don’t know who you are talking about, because I don’t know that kid.

Everyone says I am a good dad to my kids, but they don’t see this stuff. If total transformation works, I’ll pay 3X the price. But I didn’t expect being a father was going to be anything like this…

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 00:54:37 +0000

15 year old girls are tough anyway, aren’t they? Then when you throw in an uncooperative ex-husband it makes it even harder. Total Transformation is a good program and it helps you to be a better parent, but without both parents working on it, it may be an uphill battle. I know what you mean about losing privileges not helping – we’ve got some kids like that and it’s very frustrating!

By: stacy

stacy — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 19:48:16 +0000

I am a divorced mother of 2 girls, one 22 and on her own and one 15. I am experiencing behavior issues and disrespect with my 15 year old but am having a difficult time disciplining her because losing privileges doesn’t seem to bother her. Her father encourages much of the disrespect and reminds her that she has the choice of where to live. Due to his lack of moral compass I am not comfortable with her living with him. I tend to tiptoe around some issues because I fear if she moves in with him we will have even bigger issues with her and her future will be negatively affected. I don’t know if the Total Transformation is right for us or if we need professional help?? I need a miracle!!

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 16:10:44 +0000

Yes I believe it would help. Of course it depends on the child but it is designed for kids like that. By the way it’s not our program, we just have had success with it so we promote it.

By: Emmy

Emmy — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 15:48:29 +0000

Hello I have a 13 yrs old child with Autism is your program helpfull for children like my child

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 15:18:37 +0000

It’s helped with ours, but they were younger when we first started using it. I still think it can help, though, because it teaches parents techniques to help their kids learn to solve problems on their own. Poor problem solving skills is one of the main reason that kids act out.