One of the questions that quite often gets asked when people come to this website is does Total Transformation really work? They want to know many different individual’s opinions on the program when they don’t have anything to gain or lose from reviewing it.
(Click here to see a sample of the type of training you’ll find on the CD’s and DVD’s in the Total Transformation Program. You actually can click on each CD or DVD to preview that lesson. Especially take a look at the Jump Start DVD. See if you think this is the kind of information that might help you parent your children.)
I love the Total Transformation program, and use the tools I’ve learned from it every day with my five kids. I’ve tried to be as honest and straightforward with my Total Transformation review as possible, but I also thought it might be useful to give some unbiased opinions from others when asked if the Total Transformation really works?
So I searched the internet and found as many unbiased opinions as I could as to whether Total Transformation really works or not. So here you go!
Crystal G says:
We just bought it ourselves, got it yesterday. I watched the first disk (Jump Start) and although it kind of played like a long commercial for something I had already bought, there was some good information in there. It gave me hope that this just may help. I think the thing that jumped out at me the most was when he said “You don’t have to attend every argument you are invited to”.
Hey if this program can show me another way of dealing with things and how to deal with things in order to get a different reaction from my child than I am getting now it will have been worth 20 times what it cost… All I know is that it can’t hurt to try a different way since what I am doing now certainly isn’t working.
So, bottom line is I haven’t had it long enough to tell you if it is going to work, but just watching the first DVD gave me hope, which I didn’t have much of before that.
Diane says:
I have used this program. This program is good stay consistent with it. The first day I started putting things in motion my kids hated it. Use words like you had a choice and you choose to do this. And now because you chose this you also chose this punishment. It gives a lot of practice steps etc. I think the older your child is and how far they are gone really needs professional help, but if your children are not severe than this program can work for you.
I want to say that as a parent, you have to be very dedicated to this program and be very consistent. What I did was watched a new video every week and then practiced each level for a couple of weeks before moving on. I would say give it a try.
The program will work if you are dedicated as long as there aren’t other issues as well, my oldest son was too far gone to have it work for me and he is in a juvenile detention center, but my other children it has worked very nice.
Denise Says:
I have the Total Transformation System (bought for me by my well-meaning parents) and while I think it is probably a good system, I have to admit that it was hard for me to get through the audio CDs….they actually put me to sleep! I hope to get through the entire program some day…..
Good luck!
Seasidesu says:
I started using The Total Transformation …. a couple of months ago. What I really like about this program (and there are so many things!) is that it gave me some practical things to do immediately to help stop my son’s obnoxious behavior. Like July said, there’s a series of CDs. It’s helped me understand how my child thinks, how (and WHY) he has these outbursts and some different roles that he and I have both fallen into. It’s definitely helped me implement a more effective parenting style, and his siblings are happy, too!
So there you have few reviews. If you’re willing to work, the program works! Click here to learn more and see if the Total Transformation will really work for you too!
About the author: By Matt HellstromMatt is the parent (along with his wife Julie) to five wonderful kids. He has been self-employed for 25+ years and is the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.
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I just got my Total Transformation and I have watched the Jump Start DVD. It does seem repetative, but I did get a lot out of it. I am a good parent and my child has consequences for their behavior! I can separeate myself from their behavior and really have a good nights sleep!
This is not a comment on the program -I have not tried it-yet. All I know is that I am desperate. I have an 18yr.old son that i need help with, I also have 2 younger kids,7 & 14 and I know its affecting them. At times I am petrified of him and other times he breaks my heart.Can this program help or is he too old. Anyone please answer I am at the end of my rope!!! thanks kathy
@kathy deecken: hi 18 is the age you get to let go kick him out but secretly make sure you help him get a job and place. its what my mom did for me now im 28 and happily married. if he is really not helping himself just give him a ultimatum 30 days or out he will change with the quickness
@kathy deecken: kathy, did it help with your 18 yr old? has this program helped with anyone’s children?
It’s helped with ours, but they were younger when we first started using it. I still think it can help, though, because it teaches parents techniques to help their kids learn to solve problems on their own. Poor problem solving skills is one of the main reason that kids act out.
I think you can always help. This program teaches kids to solve their problems in a healthy way – who couldn’t use help like that, at any time. Sounds like he’s really struggling, I’m sure you’d find some help with the Total Transformation, as long as you are consistent with the advice Mr. Lehman gives you.
How much does it cost?
It costs about $300, but they have a program that if you do a survey after you complete each chapter, they’ll refund your money.
i sooo need this program for my son…just sad because i really dont have the extra money at this time…sure is expensive when there are so many children out there that need this kind of help.
I work as a Childrens Advocate & Shelter Director @ a domestic & family violence shelter & many of the mothers & children that come through could benefit from this program I believe….however the cost is a bit out of reach for all the moms we help. Texas mom I agree with you & it also makes me sad that this program can’t benefit less fortunate families because of the cost.
Mendy, they do have a program where you pay the first installment for the program then if you answer the survey questions in a timely manner you will get your money refunded to you. It’s a good opportunity for less fortunate families to get the help they need and not have to pay.
I always kept my kids in line with timeouts and I spanked when they were way out of line.
I too spanked my children. RARELY! I say rarely because spankings were reserved for the most serious charactor issues, such as lieing. My children were not perfect anymore than was their mother, but all-in-all, they are decent people. They all have work ethics, they all show and respect, they all try each day to grow a little. Always striving to be a better person. My children are all grown now, but I see issues with some of our nieces and nephews and a couple of grands. As family, my hope is that each one will benifit from this program, I may even learn a new thing or two myself. I ordered the program a week ago and am expecting it any day now. I will update here as to how the program is or is not having the hoped for expectations. Ciao’
Hello I have a 13 yrs old child with Autism is your program helpfull for children like my child
Yes I believe it would help. Of course it depends on the child but it is designed for kids like that. By the way it’s not our program, we just have had success with it so we promote it.
I am a divorced mother of 2 girls, one 22 and on her own and one 15. I am experiencing behavior issues and disrespect with my 15 year old but am having a difficult time disciplining her because losing privileges doesn’t seem to bother her. Her father encourages much of the disrespect and reminds her that she has the choice of where to live. Due to his lack of moral compass I am not comfortable with her living with him. I tend to tiptoe around some issues because I fear if she moves in with him we will have even bigger issues with her and her future will be negatively affected. I don’t know if the Total Transformation is right for us or if we need professional help?? I need a miracle!!
@stacy: Facing the same thing but with a disrespectful bio mom. Kids can’t -choose- where they live (if you are divorced), that’s set up by the divorce decree. I hope yours doesn’t get legal/costly/ugly, but where to live is not up to the minor child.
Your girl’s father sounds like he may be disrespecting his daughter and her best interests, given those include maintaining a healthy relationship with her mom by allowing (and promoting) your separate household.
15 year old girls are tough anyway, aren’t they? Then when you throw in an uncooperative ex-husband it makes it even harder. Total Transformation is a good program and it helps you to be a better parent, but without both parents working on it, it may be an uphill battle. I know what you mean about losing privileges not helping – we’ve got some kids like that and it’s very frustrating!
I am a father of a 13 year old daughter that treats me like I am a friend of hers that can’t tell her what to do. She will do things without asking, borrow things without asking and when I get “What are you doing?” about it she says she doesn’t have to ask anyone. Such as using my PC instead of hers, or taking my expensive video camera instead of using the one we let her use. If she does ask me for somthing and I say no, she goes to my wife and asks her, like my say doesn’t count. She rarely listens to me and I feel like I am just someone she uses to get something she wants, and I am useless to her if I don’t. This is getting old. I love her, but she makes it really hard to do so, I’m telling you. She questions her teachers at school the same way, but treats other parents with huge respect when she goes to a friend’s house. “Your daughter is sooo respectful” I always say good to hear, but I don’t know who you are talking about, because I don’t know that kid.
Everyone says I am a good dad to my kids, but they don’t see this stuff. If total transformation works, I’ll pay 3X the price. But I didn’t expect being a father was going to be anything like this…
Reading all of these posts is so refreshing… I always felt my daughter was the only one who acted like this and that I have done something wrong in raising her to be the way she is today.
My 16 year old daughter is a professional manipulator! Her behavior is hot and cold and I never know what exactly is going to set her off. She has been dating a guy (20 years old but acts as if he is 14) that depends 100% on his mother. She has been basically living with him when she doesn’t need anything from us (usually food and change of clothing). She smokes cigarettes (which her boyfriends mother buys) and is a very disrespectful human being. She has dropped out of school and does not work. I am at the end of my rope and feel like I have zero control.
This program talks about implementing consequences when the rules are not followed but my question is, what kind of consequences can I implement if I can’t even keep her at home? I will gladly buy this program if it really does work for someone like her.
We have a 10 year old son who I feel that needs An exorsism instead a beh. Program.it started with an 8 hr temper trantrum when he was about 2 or 3.he acts wonderful at school, with other families(which god knows we are thankful for that)but when it comes to me my husband and my 14 yr old dtr. He is mostly a little monster. We have never been able to tell him “no” without him flipping chairs, punching holes in the walls, locking himself in the bathroom for hrs to prevent getting a whipping. He takes our things. We don’t have anything that is personal or private, I will find our stuff took apart in his room. The only time he is normal acting is when he is sick. I’ve tried to talk to his dr. But he blows us off saying he needs his butt busted! I’ve took him to counslers but it would of involved school and I don’t want him classified as a troubled kid there because he does so well there. He talks so bad to us especially to hid dad “I hate your guts, I’d like to shoot u in the head when I get 18, I know you all hate me, and so on and so fourth.” we are tired, sick, and disguisted. We seldom have my dtrs friends over because he won’t leave them alone. We don’t have his friends over because he will do and say anything he wants to us without regard, and he is as wild as a buck, but remember he is not that way anywhere but with us it must be us. We are not bad people. We are educated and professional people. My husband recently retired due to a final bout of crohns dz. This behavior with our son is thelast thing my husband needs. I’m gonna try this program because I am truly desparate!
@Andy smith:
I thought I was alone. I have a 6 yr old son that has oppositional defiant disorder. Reading these posts made me not feel so crazy, because for along time I thought I was a bad mom and that it was something I did. I am a stay at home mom , my husband and I feel like we have done everything as parents we could do in raising him to be an obedient child. But we just don’t know where we have gone wrong. He mostly targets me because I am with him most of the time, my husband works out of town a lot . So I get the brunt of the tantrums. It just breaks my heart to hear him say such ugly things to me. I hope that the total transformation can help because I am at the end of my rope.