We have been learning SO MUCH about Reactive Attachment Disorder and ADHD over the last couple of years, and much of what we learned is very scientific. One of the things we’ve learned about is neurotherapy (or neurofeedback) and how that can help with these disorders.

We have five adopted kids, and one of the main things you need to be aware of if you’re going to adopt is that the child is most likely going to have some attachment issues. Reactive Attachment Disorder is a very real and very serious problem, but it is one that can be reversed and the child can become whole and well again.

What happens when a child is abused, neglected, or any number of other things, is that their brain does not fully develop in a healthy way. They get used to doing all of their thinking in the back or “Flight, Fight, or Freeze” part of their brain and the neural pathways never develop to the logical, front part of the brain. This is a very simplified explanation of what happens and being that I’m just a dad and not a doctor or scientist, I’ll leave it at that. You can learn more from a neurotherapist in your community if you’re interested. However, I can speak to what happens to the behavior of the child.

Our kids have been having neurotherapy sessions once a week for 3 months now and I can truly say the results are astounding! One of them would get very stuck: if he didn’t want to do something or thought it wasn’t fair, he would become extremely belligerent, verbally abusive, he would act out, and be totally illogical for hours or days on end. He didn’t care who he hurt or offended – he was miserable to be around! In the last 2 or 3 weeks, we have seen the most remarkable change! He is able to articulate his feelings and to handle adversity and the word “no” much better. It seems like he’s grown up 5 years in the last 2 months – we can’t believe it!

We have another kiddo that is 11 and has always had the worst handwriting. About a week ago my wife looked at one of his papers and said “Who wrote this for you?” He stated that he did it, and she couldn’t believe it! It was 50 times more legible than it had ever been in the past.

Another one of our guys is 12 and he’s always been pretty ADHD. Since we started the neurotherapy, we’ve taken him off of his medication, and he’s much calmer and doesn’t have to be in control like in the past. It’s great!

So how does this work?

The first thing they do is go in for a “Brain Map”, which involves putting a electrodes all over their heads and measuring their brain waves – basically an EEG. This is how the therapist determines which areas to work on.

Then the therapy starts – watching movies and video games! They put these little sensors on the kid’s fingers which measure heart beat, breathing, and sweat, then they make a car go in a video game if they’re able to stay calm. This helps to remap the brain somehow – don’t ask me how, but I know it works!

After that, the child picks out a movie and the therapist puts sensors on each ear, and on one spot on their head (in the area they want to “fix”). The kid watches the movie, and if the brain does something that it’s not supposed to, the movie stops for a split second. The brain then “reprograms” its action, using a different pathway that’s more appropriate and the movie starts again. This teaches the brain to use the right pathways instead of the wrong ones, and builds up that communication between the back and the front of the brain.

It seems wild, I know, but it works! If you’ve got a kid that has RAD, ADD, ADHD, or autism I would highly recommend trying out this therapy! What have you got to lose? Here’s a video I found about one child’s experience, take a look.

What else can you do?

The best book we’ve found for parenting our RAD kids is When Love Is Not Enough by Nancy Thomas. For parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder this is a must have.

We’ve also had much success with Total Transformation by James Lehman. Though it’s not written specifically for RAD kids, the techniques we’ve learned in it have worked very well for ours.

About the author: By Matt Hellstrom

Matt is the parent (along with his wife Julie) to five wonderful kids. He has been self-employed for 25+ years and is the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.

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I would like to share our story with ADHD natural remedies. Our family has tried all sorts of avenues, and we have found that each child is unique in their response to different alternatives. We have explored and found success with different medications, behavioral modification programs, and natural ADHD remedies. This article is focusing on our experiences with natural ADHD remedies.

As it seems to be more common than we thought, 3 of our 5 adopted kiddos have ADHD or ADD. Our 15-year old took medication for 4 years, but in her “I am my own person” stage has refused to continue. Sadly, her impulsivity has got her into trouble some.

My son, who is eleven, has started on some medication and it has helped him with bedwetting at night, and is doing well. He can now better enjoy sleepovers.

My littlest lamb also suffers from ADHD, and it is only one of many health concerns he is dealing with. Some of the things that are making his ADHD near impossible to deal with are sensory integration disorder, and cerebral palsy. Smells out of the ordinary and textures in his mouth his body will physically reject. After attempting a couple of different medications, we discovered that this was the reason that he could not take his meds (we have set up a counseling fund already due to this setback!).

Believe me, I tried everything! Hide it in ice cream, sprinkle it on waffles, pushing it back on his tongue. He just couldn’t swallow it and he could definitely taste the bitterness. So then we tried the patch.

Unfortunately it was only available in stimulant form, which made things dicey in that when the medication wore off he exhibited a destructive streak and would be sobbing. This was not getting us anywhere.

A naturopath suggested that caffeine could balance out the symptoms our son was showing. So, much to his delight, he enjoyed a Diet Pepsi with his lunch everyday for about six months. It couldn’t contain sugar as this would be counterproductive. There wasn’t much change. The doctor informed us to look into other issues besides the ADHD. I couldn’t take anymore.

Exasperated, I googled “my son has ADHD and can’t take meds”. I thought I might be on to something when several homeopathic remedies came up. After doing some research, I took a hard look at Focus Formula from Native Remedies. On the upside we found that it was made from all natural ingredients, and on the downside, we found that it would take at least three weeks before we would see results. We forged ahead anyway.

The results? I just ordered my second bottle. My baby went from earning zero points for staying on task at school to earning 11 (the maximum). After 3 months, he is able to self start on his homework, stay focused on it, earn an average of 8 points at school and his frustration level is way down. The best thing – drops instead of pills. We put it in root beer, and he slugs it right down! He knows it’s in there, he even does it himself!

I am ecstatic and he is happier. Success in life has a way of doing that for a boy! If you’re having trouble and have the same “pill swallowing” problems that we did, maybe one of the natural ADHD remedies like Focus Formula is for your little one.

About the author: By Julie Hellstrom

Julie is an awesome parent (along with her husband Matt) to five adopted kiddos and the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.

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