“Where are the behavior plans for these children?” Does this sound like you? Well look no further, there are behavior plans that will help you parent effectively. And they are simple to use.
James Lehman’s Total Transformation has several key concepts that teach your child responsibility and accountability. You will learn these concepts and also how to use them.
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Behavior plans must have solid concepts that have been proven to work. Below are 4 of these that I found gave me results right away. Seeing these type of results gave me confidence in the program as a whole.
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Single Issue focus. Children love to get us off track with an unrelated argument. This trick can easily get you frustrated and make you forget what you wanted to do in the first place. You must be in control of the conversation so you can keep the focus on the issue. You can validate the child’s ‘other’ concern by setting up a time later to discuss it. Don’t be hesitant to have notes if you tend to get easily distracted.
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The Consequences. Be sure to tell your children what the consequences are when you are explaining the rules. These consequences are the best way to respond to bad behavior. They establish law and order. Remember, it is short term structure and values you are trying to maintain. Lasting change, however will not come from the consequences. It will come from the consequences causing them to yearn for their own change. Also base them on your child’s behavior, not what you think they are thinking.
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Selective Attention. While a lot of parenting skills takes fortitude, this one gives you a break. Simply ignore negative behavior that is not important. Behaviors that are meant to get attention can be ignored as long as they are not abusive. Everyone in the family (or involved in caring for the child) must be in on this. The upside to this is that you will pay close attention to positive behavior. This is where your child will benefit the most and where you will start to see a new effort on their part to change.
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Redirect Interest. This concept also utilizes another skill out of your parenting toolbox-creative thinking. When your child is stuck on negative thinking, change the topic. Switching the activity or conversation will stop the downward mood spiral. This concept can also work well when coupled with the above noted Selective Attention. This will also teach them how doing something positive and productive can change their mood.
These are just 4 of the important behavior management plan skills that can positively effect change in your kids without a lot of parenting effort.
For many more tips and techniques for behavior plans for your teens, check out The Total Transformation. It’s one of the best child behavior programs I’ve ever seen – it worked for our family, I’m sure it can work for yours!
About the author: By Julie HellstromJulie is an awesome parent (along with her husband Matt) to five adopted kiddos and the owner of the Positive Parenting Skills website.
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